Are you a professional procrastinator? Do you like putting things off until tomorrow? This represents virtually all of us. No matter how efficient we are in most areas of our lives, there is usually an area or two where we drag our feet. Consequently, we are never quite on top of our game.

Why is this? Well, it relates to usually one of five ideas. The lack of money or time, or we are fearful. Or, we don’t trust the people we are engaged with, to include ourselves sometimes. Or, finally, we simply lack the necessary urgency to act.

The distance between thinking about doing something and actually doing it is sometimes enormous. We have the desires but somehow we lack the motivation. We want to watch what we eat but best to wait until after the weekend. We want to control our finances but we are paralyzed until the next paycheck hits the account. We want to make time for the family but life is so hectic. And this is what happens.

We can’t hide from the effects of the chocolate bars forever. While we are putting off, we are putting on.
We can’t hide from the debt. While we are sweeping under the carpet, we are developing an overdraft.
We can’t afford to hide from family who need our support. While we are busy, we are neglecting.

If you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, maybe it’s time you went down there and lit it yourself. Otherwise, that which you intend to do tomorrow might never, ever get done.

Balance your diet today. Balance you bank statements and address the imbalance. Balance you work and your life.
Before tomorrow comes.

Thomas Chalmers is an executive coach based in Scotland. He works with executives, politicians, and entrepreneurs. idealifeinternational.com idealifeinternational.com

Michael Imani, Ph.D. is a mind/body expert who works with clients on weight and life management. michaelimanicoaching.com michaelimanicoaching.com

Have you ever heard of Conversational Hypnosis? It’s likely you haven’t. The reason is that the people who practice this type of hypnosis are not advertising for clients who are willing be hypnotized to stop smoking or lose weight, or become confident, or anything else you can learn to do with hypnosis. In fact, the people who use conversational hypnosis hope you never find out they used it, or you might get a little angry.

Conversational hypnosis is the type of hypnosis usually used by those in sales, but it is also consciously, and sometimes unconsciously, used by those who seem to always get what they want. They are the people you think you can believe in. For some reason you just trust them, and whatever they say seems to be the right thing. There is a natural ability that some people have that makes conversational hypnosis an everyday thing. (which is why I said they could be using it unconsciously), but for most people, it takes practice.

Conversational Hypnosis usually occurs when two people seem to be “just” talking to each other. It is very unlike regular voluntary hypnosis, where one person is put into a trance while the other person speaks softly and/or asks questions.

One person seems to be listening and agreeing, while the other is doing most of the talking.

Cleverly, the main person talking is doing so in a way that influences the listener to follow their lead. They use their tone of voice along with what they say to influence another person’s decision. They know when you’re going to say “yes” or “no.” If they feel a “no” coming on, they can change your mind before you even know what you were going to say.

Not only that, but they can even make you forget that you originally had objections, until the only thing left for you to do is buy, or agree that they’re right and then wonder what happened later.

If you talk with your hands, or use basic body language, you can be persuaded very easily by a conversational hypnotist because they are very good at reading this language; it’s a lot easier to read than just trying to determine what a person is saying.

So, what are the chances that you have ever been the victim of this type of hypnosis? Well, have you ever had what’s called buyers remorse – where you went to buy one thing, and somehow bought something much more expensive than you ever thought you would, and just didn’t know what made you make that expensive purchase. On your way home, did you ever find yourself trying to convince yourself, or figure out how to tell your spouse or significant other that this was a good purchase, even though you now don’t believe it yourself? Then, you were probably the victim of Conversational Hypnosis.

It’s really not a very good feeling when that happens. But, if you know the secrets, you can be in control at all times. You can either stick with your original answer, OR, make people do what you want for a change!

For more information about the stages of Conversational Hypnosis including: -Amplifying & Directing The Unconscious Responses -How To Bypass The Conscious Mind and get just about anyone to say “Yes” -How To Absorb a Person’s Attention and influence them to follow your lead -Your Ability to Access Unconscious Responses and increase your negotiation abilities

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There are many ways to talk about another person or to write articles and perhaps a commercial piece of copy in which we use the personal pronoun “You.”

Used correctly, that single word can open up a lot of doors for us. But used improperly, it can become just another item of self-promotion and backfire.

And the irony is, people usually can tell the difference right away except for the author of the article or the originator of the conversation.

The WRONG way to keep talking about “you” is to utilize it as just a leverage point around which we spin the conversation in a direction that has nothing to do with the other person.

For example, when we ask “Have I told you how much fun I had this summer in Paris?” we are obviously not talking about the other person although we are using the pronoun “you.” There is no real “you” in such self-serving statements.

Result – the other person tries to look for an excuse to get away from being used as a bouncing board. It’s always going to be a lose-lose situation.

We will get the same result when we use “you” to lecture or “advise” people as in “you should do this this and that…”

Or when it is used just to count the features of an item, product, or service that WE think are important for US: “You can rest assured that OUR models come with a brand new thermostat and a service contract and a phone call from US every week and you can further rest assured that OUR price is the lowest you’ll ever find…”

The RIGHT way to talk about “you” is to really inquire about specific things about the other person.

When we say something like “so tell me what happened to you on that day?” or “what dish should we prepare for you? Do you have any food allergies?” then we are really asking something about that person and the result is immediate. We can then see the “you” opening up and engaging us in the kind of real communication that “fake you’s” can never establish.

Always ask something SPECIFIC and stay away from empty generalities. Give CONTENT to get CONTENT.

“How ’s that cold you had last Wednesday?” is a much better way of communicating with “you” than “So how’s it going?” or even worse — “whazzup?”

Genuine communication creates wonders when we are really ready to listen and learn something NEW from “you” (and I’ll be the first one to admit that that’s the hard part).

If we just forget about this or that “communication technique” and instead choose to ask a SPECIFIC question ABOUT the other person and then LISTEN to LEARN something NEW about “you,” we’ll never go wrong. It’s always going to be a win-win situation.

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Ugur Akinci, Ph.D. is a Creative Copywriter, Editor, an experienced and award-winning Technical Communicator specializing in fundraising packages, direct sales copy, web content, press releases, movie reviews and hi-tech documentation.

He has worked as a Technical Writer for Fortune 100 companies for the last 7 years.

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