Today a great caring friend informed me that as brilliant as I am philosophically, spiritually and humanitarianly I sometimes lack the ability to understand and have compassion for my fellow sentient beings who may not have the growth and consciousness that I have accrued through my seeking of MY truth.

I was not shocked as I already knew this about my self. The old adage of “not tolerating fools lightly” has always been my motto; I have tried to grow past this as a Manager of a Small Corporate Cleaning Company.

Here lies my dilemma. How on earth do I acquire this characteristic? Buddhism helped greatly with their doctrine of compassion. My Christian Ministry training gave me the gift of forgiveness. Logically I know we are all at different stages of growth, however when I teach or preach/guide, some of my audience can feel some what judged or intimidated which was not my motive and intention at all.

Naturally my first response is to blame my charismatic character and passion for the subject I am bestowing on my audience. But hey, that is just an excuse. I must find an alternative.

Something I have learnt and believed in is everything is a half truth. There is no absolute truth in our world as there are as many different perceptions in every sentient being. Environmental, societal, religious and parental instruction has bestowed so many belief systems on all of us and created so many different half truths and ideas. Not mention “where is their information coming from?

The point of losing our authentic self and our contact with the only holy truth of universal consciousness/GOD, consciousness seems to me to be our only answer. Yet how do I continue to be successful in helping people move on without invading their personal truths that are destructive to them and causing them pain. Is it their egos or is it my immaturity to fulfill my call/dharma.

Yet, the dilemma still lies in me to have the compassion and understanding that not every incarnated soul is at, or on the same path, yet still touch their hearts with new information invoking change and revelation.

Love is the answer, yet my overriding passion to heal and help humanity to move onto the next stage of evolution and spiritual consciousness has me excited and interpretated by a few as authoritive control. It seems there’s always a small part of my audience that thinks it’s my (me) way or the highway which is the last thing I want to convey.

Recently this week my spirit said in that quiet inner space I call universal consciousness/GOD, “Monique wait for the fruit to ripen on the bough” which I totally understand. I am an impatient soul with a yearning and burning to free as many of the slaves of the old energy to become free to Love and Care and Cherish themselves as the perfect beings that they are. One with all and the Universe/GOD.

I guess just writing this article has helped me to clarify a lesson that is badly needed for me to reach as many souls in pain and suffering as I can. I am always reading articles and most of them are sharing their experience and advice to others. This article is a little different in the fact that I am exposing a character defect in myself that is blocking the potential I have within. A humbling experience indeed.

Maybe some of you can relate, and then again some of you may have already overcome this defect of character. Any help would be most welcome. Please email me at woundedhealer@iprimus.com.au with any positive guidance.

Criticism and judgment is not really what I’m after, your experience and tools to overcome my dilemma would be much more appreciated.
I know there’s a soul out there who can help.

wounded-healer-support.com wounded-healer-support.com My Passion and vehicle to the world. I live in the Gold Coast, QLD. Australia and teach YR7 RE (religious education) which I diversify into guiding the students to LOVE AND CARE for themselves. I am a counsellor and have a Diploma in Ministry which I dont use in the church but follow the message of Jesus into the community. “The Father is in me and I am in the Father. ‘WE ARE ALL ONE’.A new world order is needed and not neccessarily the one our world leaders envision. We need peace and love on this planet, not war.

Over the years I have observed that there are some common reasons why people don’t live a great life. Having a great life takes work but knowing some of the common mistakes that are made will make it easier so that you can avoid them. Here are the 3 most commons mistakes that I have found that stop people from living a great life.

1. Letting fear control you.

If you want a great life you will have to do things that make you step out of your comfort zone. These things can be scary but if you let fear control you, you will never have the great life that you deserve. Learn to take control of your fear and not let it dictate your actions in life.

2. Having self doubt.

Doubting yourself by having a low self esteem or self confidence will make you miss a lot of opportunities in your life. Do what ever it takes to increase your self esteem so that you don’t doubt yourself. I have seen so many people with great potential end up living a miserable life because they don’t have the self confidence to believe in themselves.

3. Not following your heart.

Pressure to do things in your life from the people that you care about can be overbearing at times. The thing you have to remember is that you are living your life, not them. Even though their intentions may be good, they don’t really know what a great life for you is. You have to follow your heart and not end up living a life that someone else wants you to live.

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Passion is the great equalizer. It can make up for a lack of experience and knowledge. I am not suggesting that you not develop your knowledge or experience, only that until you do your passion will be interpreted by others as a strong belief in yourself, your mission and your purpose.

Passion is different from enthusiasm. The old out-worn cliché says, “Act enthusiastic and you will become enthusiastic.” I have never subscribed to this philosophy. The reason is that if enthusiasm is only an act that you use when things are going well, how do you behave when your life is falling apart at the seams? Are you just as enthusiastic in life when you are failing or your life seems full of discouragement, adversity that seems to follow your every decision and action, more problems than you deserve and frustration that haunts you at every turn? What happens when you act enthusiastic while waiting to become (being) enthusiastic you will develop an excellent enthusiastic act. Trust me, this act will not get you very far in life. Being will. Enthusiasm comes from the Greek word: en-theos (from God)

Passion is not an act. It is a way of believing. It is woven into your cellular structure just as much as your DNA. Passion, real passion for who you are, who you are becoming, what you believe, what you want or desire, where you are, and where you are going, what you believe in, stand for and would die for shouts to the world, “I am here to stay, I am here to make a difference, I will leave my mark in this world. It may take me my entire life, but I will not give up until my purpose and destiny are realized.”
Who do you know that is passionate about something? Anything?

You can see it in their eyes, hear it in their voice and sense it in their behavior. How are you doing? Are you in love with where you are, where you are going, who you are becoming and what you are contributing? Or, are you living like over 85% of the population with the attitude, “Same Stuff, Different Day.”

If you have lost or are losing your passion for life, your career or a relationship. Do what ever is necessary to get it back. Here are a few ideas to consider.

1. Count your blessings.

2. Accept the reality of how your life is unfolding.

3. Manage your expectations.

4. Let go of old baggage.

5. Accept yourself just as you are.

6. Live with an attitude of gratitude.

7. Find a way to serve your fellow humanity.

8. Do what you love, not what you must do.

Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He is also the CEO of Sales Clubs Of America. He can be reached at mailto:tim@timconnor.com tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at timconnor.com timconnor.com or SalesClubsOfAmerica.com SalesClubsOfAmerica.com

The Challenge of Change!

The bamboo that bends is stronger than the oak that resists.

-Japanese Proverb

We all face circumstances in life that face us with the opportunity to be a bamboo or an oak. Situations that we find difficult or uncomfortable often bring from us the first response of the oak tree that stands firm and strong in opposition to that which is not to our liking. We dig our heels in. Even a torrent and storm of protest against us cannot sway us in our obstinacy of believing that we should have our way in the matter. The result is that we stand firm but aloof and alone in our selfish obstinacy.

How different is the bamboo that bends. It has no great power of resistance. It cannot be an oak however much it tries. Not that it would want to be. It is by nature pliable and easily swayed to fall in with the flow of things around it. How much more comfortable life would be for each of us it we could be that bamboo. How we might then find that change is not the unnerving disaster that we thought it would be. Rather it is the catalyst to bring about in us much needed change and desirable growth.

Change is a fact of life for our evolvement and growth as human beings and as spirit beings, this later being our primary and enduring nature. Human life on this planet is little more than a vehicle for our spirit to develop and grow to reach a higher level of attainment and evolvement.
Changes and challenges to our status quo are usually seen by us as threats. We need to change of primary way of thinking about these events that cross our pathway to see that they are opportunities for much needed growth. Without the irritations of life we would stagnate and be seriously stunted in our growth.

We need to have our comfort zones challenged in many ways. True, not all at once or we begin to feel overwhelmed. But gradually over a period of time, indeed over a lifetime, the challenges we meet will help us to become more the person we were meant to be, or the person we need to be. This is necessary for our spirit to develop so that we may move on to a higher plane of experience. Sometimes that higher plane may be experienced in this life. But very often we become aware that this is the schoolroom to prepare us for the greater awareness and opportunities for service that will open up to us in another place outside on this earthly experience.

Growth is always a choice we will face in this life. We can resist. We can be the oak for a time. But experience will hopefully be a kind and truthful teacher for us and show us that the way of the solid and immoveable oak is not the way of change. That way does not serve our long term best interests. We will hopefully see that the way of the bamboo is by far the best. The winds of life will not blow so strong on the bamboo so as to destroy it. Rather the wind of change that we will experience will manifest itself as a refreshing breeze that blows upon us to revitalize and enliven us.

We will succeed in making the necessary growth if we have a change of mindset. If we too easily have in the past had the immediate response of the oak, we will need to change our viewpoint to an understanding that only the way of the pliable bamboo is the way of growth. The winds that once were seen as the winds of adversity will then be changed in our renewed vision into the winds of opportunity. Comfort will become less of a priority – growth will be number one on our gift list to ourselves.

What positive things can we do to embrace change as our friend? We need to set goals and also have a clear idea of how we are going to achieve our goals. We need to see what changes are immediately present as challenges to our achievement of our goals. We need to see our pride and obstinacy as obstacles rather than benefits. We must recognize a stepping stone set before us for what it is. How many stepping stones have we heaved out of the way in our lifetime, rather than stepping onto them and seeing that they almost miraculously take us forward to the next place we need to be in our life stream experience.

Whenever we feel resistance we need to question why we are resisting. Do we gain anything from this resistance? Almost always the answer will be a resounding “NO”. Of course when change confronts us we will have doubts and we will have fears. But what does doubt and fear achieve for us? Are these emotions our friend or our foe? Should we push them away from us? Undoubtedly we should.

Why not make a pact with yourself TODAY to confront your comfort zones, to question their validity and discard those that demonstrate their worthlessness? This will be for you the biggest stepping stone you have been given. Once taken, this step will make all the other steps seem less formidable. You will be on the pathway that was designed for you.