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The Great Challenge of Life

Here’s the great challenge of life – You can have more than you’ve got because you can become more than you are.

I have found that income seldom will exceed your own personal development. Once in a while income takes a lucky jump, but unless you grow out to where it is it will go back to where you are. Somebody once said if you took all the money in the world and divided it among everyone equally, it would soon be back in the same pockets.

However, you can have more because you can become more. You see, here is how the other side of the coin reads – unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got. The marketing plan won’t do it. It’s a good plan but it won’t work without you. You’ve got to work it. It is the human effort that counts. If you could send a sales manual out to recruit – wouldn’t that be lovely?

The major thing that makes the difference is what YOU do.

In order to have more, you need to become more. The guy says “If I had a good job I would really pour it on, but I have this lousy job so I just goof off.” If that is your philosophy you are destined to stay there. Some people say if I had a lot of money I would be really generous, but I don’t have much so I’m not generous.

See, you’ve got to change that philosophy or you will never have “the lots of money”. Unless YOU change, IT won’t change. Amazingly, however, when we throw out our blame list and start becoming more ourselves – the difference is everything else will begin to change around us.

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn

Reproduced with permission from Jim Rohn’s Weekly E-zine.
Copyright 2005 Jim Rohn International. All rights reserved
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  • Whether your cleaning business has 2 employees or 20, it is important that your staff works together as a team. Working together as a team helps to create a more positive workforce, is valuable for sharing ideas and energy for problem solving, and provides more bodies to share the work and responsibilities. Even though your employees may have specific jobs and responsibilities, they realize they are contributing to the overall success of the business by being a team player. Being part of a team helps your employees feel they are a part of the “big picture” and not just there for the paycheck.

    In order to have a successful team, you need to start with an effective team leader. Your role as leader is to make sure the team has the means to get the job done. The means can be supplies, training, equipment or just general support so the team members can perform the tasks they need to. As team leader you need to:

    Help each team member reach his or her potential Develop each team member’s talents through proper training Have trust that each team member will do their best Feel comfortable delegating assignments and trusting in the decisions made by the team members Break down any barriers that exist between individuals becoming effective team members Effectively communicate with the team members

    How do you hire employees that will make good team members? When hiring employees look for character traits that suggest the individual has good interpersonal skills. Individuals should be willing to fulfill their team responsibilities and not get hung up on individual contributions to the team effort.

    How do you build your team? A team is a group of people who are working together as a group. Use team-building techniques to improve how the group of employees work together. To build your team you need to:

    * Set goals and priorities

    * Create a task list and decide the best way to assign those tasks

    * Examine how the team should work together to carry out assigned tasks

    * Look at the relationships between the people who are on the team

    Holding team building workshops or training exercises can promote better cooperation among employees, increase communication skills, and help to remove conflicts.

    The team leader plays an important role in keeping the team motivated and on track. Coaching is an important part of the team leader’s role. Your employees will contribute more to the overall team effort if you coach them to make the best use of their strengths. Use the following principles when coaching employees:

    * It is important to know the skills and strengths of each employee on the team.

    * Employees should be coached, not told what to do. Coaching helps them to develop their abilities and helps them to understand how to analyze and solve problems.

    * Provide specific feedback, be supportive and encouraging.

    * When coaching, ask questions that encourage employees to find the answers such as, “What problem are you trying to solve?”

    * Let the individuals on the team know that you have high expectations.

    How do you motivate your team? Once you have your employees working together it is important to motivate your team to achieve team goals and not individual goals. As teams learn each individual’s skills and weaknesses they will discover ways to do tasks faster, which leads to cost savings. These savings can then be passed along to team members in the forms of rewards or bonuses.

    Give rewards such as pay raises, bonuses, and recognition, to individuals that engage fully as team members. Examples of effective team behaviors include: training others on the team, sharing information, working to resolve problems and issues as they arise, and mastering new skills to help the teamwork more efficiently.

    Once you have your team in place your employees will share a sense of camaraderie. Being part of a successful team is a satisfying experience and helps all the individuals on the team feel like they are an important part of your business. Grow your business and your profits by making sure that all of your employees feel like they are a part of your “team”.

    Copyright 2006 The Janitorial Store

    Steve Hanson is co-founding member of TheJanitorialStore.com, an online community for owners and managers of cleaning companies who want to build a more profitable and successful cleaning business. Sign up for Trash Talk: Tip of the Week at TheJanitorialStore.com TheJanitorialStore.com and receive a Free Gift. Read cleaning success stories from owners of cleaning companies at cleaning-success.com/ cleaning-success.com/


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  • Thoughts To Ponder – #53

    When Betty Eadie was 31, she died in a hospital after undergoing surgery. What happened next has been called by some, “the most profound near-death experience ever.” Betty journeyed to a beautiful world beyond this life. She met Jesus there. Jesus gave her a message to give to others when she returned. These quotes from her books, Embraced By The Light, The Awakening Heart, and The Ripple Effect give a glimpse of her profound experience. Part XI

    “…this crazy mind-boggling world is ours. We chose to come to it, and we chose this period of time in which to come. Many of us were among the strong ones, ready and determined to come and bless this world in these chaotic times. Now’s our chance.”

    “God never uses his love to hurt us. To do so would countermand his own law of judgment. ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you…’ So he will never let us down, will never forsake us. His love is extended to all, and he knows exactly how to reach each person…”

    “The spirit speaks a universal language, deeper and more powerful than voice. It communicates accurately and clearly, piercing through mankind’s ignorance or false understandings and recognizing each person’s true desires.”

    “‘Love one another,’ Jesus had said. ‘If you can do that, all else will be fine.’ Setting an example of love, and knowing that no one has the answer for all, gave me greater focus and vision for his will in my life.”

    Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, “101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life.” Mind, Body, Spirit healing and Physical/Sexual Abuse Prevention and Recovery. As an inspirational leader, Dr. Neddermeyer empowers people to view life’s challenges as an opportunity for Personal/Professional Growth and Spiritual Awakening. drdorothy.net drdorothy.net


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  • Yes, But Do People LIKE You?

    What are the most important personal attributes for business success? Ambition? Drive? Ruthlessness? Self-confidence? Lust for Power? Intelligence? Expertise?

    None of the above.

    According to Tim Sanders’ new book “Likeability Factor,” being likeable outranks all of these. Research shows likeable people have the best chances of being hired, promoted and rewarded. Customers are more likely to buy from those they feel good about — even if they aren’t offering the best deal. Bosses who are liked get better performance from their staff and fewer problems.

    On the other hand, the kind of boss who provokes fear rather than warmth produces poorer results, higher employee turnover and more breakdowns. Tough, abrasive companies trap themselves in an atmosphere of constant anxiety, mostly because nobody will cut them any slack.

    If those who live by the sword, die by it, those who live by being more abrasive than the next guy get the same treatment in return.

    You can prove this for yourself. If you had a chance to put one over on an unpleasant, domineering colleague, boss or supplier, would you do it? In a heartbeat.

    Likeability counts, believe me. Here’s how to increase your own.

    1. Practice being friendly and open with others. First impressions truly matter. If you’re seen as approachable and fun to be around, people will seek you out.

    2. Focus on the other person, not on yourself. Self-centered people aren’t attractive or likeable. If you genuinely concern yourself with others, you’ll be swiftly rewarded.

    3. Be yourself. We’re all born with a highly-sensitive “phoneyness” radar. Unless you’re an Oscar-level actor, people will sense immediately if you’re simply playing a part. You can’t be likeable if people don’t trust you. If you don’t like yourself enough to stick with who you are, why should anyone else like you?

    4. Slow down and take time with people. Time and attention are gifts of immense value. Give them freely. Likeable people have endless time for others, regardless of how busy they are. Unpleasant people only have time for themselves.

    5. Talk less and listen more. Ever been in a room with a boorish, nasty type? Who talked most and listened least? True listeners find themselves in the center of almost any group because that’s where the others want them. We all like good listeners.

    6. Always be polite and courteous. However mad you feel, stay friendly and open. Anger destroys all attractiveness.

    7. Develop your sense of fun and humor. Have you ever heard anyone criticized for being fun to be around? Or avoided because they make people laugh?

    If all else fails in times of stress and crisis, remember this: stay quiet … and forget about it afterwards. If you keep your mouth shut, you won’t say things you’ll regret. And if you don’t hold a grudge, you’ll be free to start again without a lot of baggage.

    Friendly people have lots of friends. Friends who will speak up for them, help them in tough times and watch out for their best interests. And, best of all, people who will forgive their mistakes and overlook their weaknesses.

    That’s something we all need.

    Adrian W. Savage writes for people who want help with the daily dilemmas they face at work. He has contributed more than 25 articles to leading British and American publications and has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today and The Chicago Tribune.

    Visit his adriansavage.com blog on the ups and downs of business life.


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  • There Is No Better Than Here

    When your there becomes a here—you again believe there is better than here.

    This type dichotomy is common in Western thought. Charles Percy Snow believes that Western society has become an argument culture. “The Two Cultures”, as developed in The Two Cultures and the Scientific Revolution (1959). Snow believes the breakdown of communication between the sciences and the humanities is a major hindrance to solving the world’s problems. Snow posits the quality of education in the world is on the decline. He points out that many scientists have never read Charles Dickens, but artistic intellectuals are equally non-conversant with science.

    Deborah Tannen posits, The Argument Culture (1989), that the dialogue of Western culture is characterized by a warlike atmosphere in which the winning side has truth (like a trophy). In this type dialogue, the middle alternatives are virtually ignored.

    Eastern thought, particularly, Buddhism says that all human problems arise from not accepting ‘what is.’ As the Serenity Prayer says, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change—the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Author unknown

    Everything can be changed faster and easier when we first accept ‘what is’ and then begin to make a change.

    Fighting against ‘what is’ sets up a power struggle between you and ‘what is’—which means that you are focusing on what you do not want, rather than on what you want. “If you understand, things are just as they are…if you do not understand, things are just as they are.” Zen proverb

    Accepting ‘what is’ is the most important thing you can do for yourself to improve your self-esteem and have peace of mind and a positive attitude in life. Accepting ‘what is’ does not imply, passively allowing your future to be determined by others, but is the salient deep understanding that the past is inexplicably past and cannot be changed.

    By accepting the past is past, you free yourself from guilt and allow yourself to take action to create your future in a new fashion. You cease wasting energy over past events and you accumulate that life energy (libido, Chi, prahna…). Thus, you can achieve more of your God-given potential which even if not infinite is much larger than any of us imagine.

    If you cannot accept ‘what is,’ start with accepting that you are not accepting ‘what is.’ Firmly and emphatically state—“I do not accept what is.” Thus, starting a cycle of acceptance and slowly you will discover that you can accept ‘what is’ and move beyond that paradigm.

    Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, “101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life.” Mind, Body, Spirit healing and Physical/Sexual Abuse Prevention and Recovery. As an inspirational leader, Dr. Neddermeyer empowers people to view life’s challenges as an opportunity for Personal/Professional Growth and Spiritual Awakening. drdorothy.net drdorothy.net


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  • Healing Childhood Abuse

    Over 25% of American women have been sexually abused as children and if untreated, suffer from the effects of the trauma into adulthood. The effects of sexual abuse may include but are not limited to depression, anxiety, nightmares, substance abuse, fear of intimacy, guilt, shame, promiscuity, destructive relationship patterns, inability to commit or sustain intimate relationships, irrational fears, a sense of a lack of meaning, feeling numb, an inability to trust others, a sense of restlessness and discontentment, an inability to achieve orgasm, and work addiction. The effects of childhood sexual abuse are far reaching.

    Trauma therapy can help heal the effects of abuse by helping a person work through painful memories and reconnect thoughts and feelings that have become blocked. Debriefing or processing past trauma in a safe, supportive and nonjudgmental setting can help release what has not been expressed. Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) is one method of clearing emotional and psychological channels. Dreams are another way of accessing what lies below the surface, as they often show us what we are not consciously aware of. Overtime, the “charge” that has been carried from the past can be released making way for growth and healing. Emphasis can be shifted from old baggage the past, as psychic energy is freed up, allowing a person to be present and able to look toward the future.

    Many of us discover that we have achieved success out in the world but sense something inside is missing. Often we feel as though we are only going through the motions of daily living by existing on the surface. My goal is to help people re-connect with the part of themselves that has been left behind, and to develop greater awareness of what is personally meaningful.

    Deborah Bryon, LPC, Ph.D. –
    303-596-5233 –
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  • Hypnosis – Simple steps on how to transform your mind and be positive all the time.

    We all have the same brain, face problems in life, and come across obstacles and hurdles. Then why is that some people solve problems, overcome the obstacles and forge ahead and others become immovable, live a pathetic life and fade away in oblivion?

    It’s all in the mind – THE BRAIN, if you believe you can solve problems YOU CAN. Then the million-dollar question is how do we do it?

    Follow these simple exercises and you will be amazed with what you can do.

    Step #1

    Sit down with your hands on your thighs, take a deep breathe and now count from 1 to 3 and say “I’m calm” I’m cool” “I’m relaxed”

    Think of something really good, it can be something that has happened or that you would like to happen. It can be wonderful date you had last night, or a fantastic vacation you going to have with your family or you are about to receive an award for your accomplishments in office. Fill your Brain completely with all the WONDERFUL things happened or about to happen.

    Now the colors brighter, the image bigger, bring it closure and turn the sound up louder. Notice what this does to your feelings. Doing this often will condition your subconscious mind to give you the feeling of those good things, because you always get more of what you focus on in life.

    For most people enhancing the size and colors of mental pictures does the same to the intensity of their feelings.

    Now try it the other way around with something mildly unpleasant.

    Step #2

    Sit down with your hands on your thighs, take a deep breathe and now count from 1 to 3 and say “I’m calm” I’m cool” “I’m relaxed.

    Think of something undesirable happened or is about to happen. It can be a dressing down you received from your boss or a fight you had with your girl friend or you messed up your work. Picture this in your mind.

    Now make drain the color of this picture completely, make it so small that it can’t be seen and move it off into a distance and throw it out in the universe.

    Open you eyes now take a deep breath and notice how you feel. It is interesting that by changing the images we see in our imagination we can literally change how we feel.

    It is all in the mind, if you program your mind with all positives and carry them forward in your life you will always have all positive things happening in your life. What you focus is what you get. So focus on only the positive and the outcome will be positive.

    And whenever you face problems follow this exercise and notice the difference you feel.

    If you follow these simple STEPS and TUNE YOUR MIND, you will be more and more healthy, wealthy and happy and successful.

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  • Who am I?

    That isn’t a question you should be asking me. I know who I am, I’m Andy Cho the boy who was raised in Ohio and born in Tennessee. I’m a person who has extraordinary dreams and confidence in my ability to succeed in life.

    Now I turn the question over to you. Who are you? You my friend are a fluid concept. You bought those clothes you’re wearing, you control the way you act, and you are who you make yourself out to be. We can have this identity crisis and ask ourselves who we are our whole lives and never truly know the answer to that question. It isn’t a lost cause, but you might think it is. It will only be a lost cause if you ask yourself that question your entire life instead of doing something about it.

    Ask yourself this: Am I living a purpose driven life? If you are, GREAT! If not, then I suggest you find a purpose in life. Find a dream or a goal; something to keep you busy and thinking. Mark my words: There is no point in living if you don’t have a dream for yourself.

    That doesn’t mean you should go and jump off a bridge because you’re depressed about the idea that your life is going nowhere. It just means that you need to step up to the plate and play the game. There will always be times when you strike out, but you can’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.

    Each individual has something special about them, harness that power and use it. Just as the quote states; “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” or a lemon pie for that matter. Life is not bad; you yourself control your own life, right? Listen carefully: You live your life ONCE…..so live it GREATLY!

    So how do you do that? Do some soul searching, whether it is out camping or inside the confines of your home. Figure out what you like, what you don’t like, your fears and joys, your hobbies and talents. If you feel that you do not have any sort of talent or skill in anything, then it is never too late to create one.

    You, as an individual, need to step out of your comfort zone and experience new boundaries, creating an even wider horizon for yourself. So instead of just sitting there waiting for something to come to you, get up and move around. Go for a walk, interact with people, and put yourself out there. The fact of the matter is that if you have this never-ending desire to find out your existence, then you will put forth the effort to do so.

    Along with your ambition to better yourself physically, while you are here why not mentally and spiritually strengthen yourself as well? You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Remember this, without a dream you will feel like nothing but an empty shell.

    Create in yourself something pure you can be content with, not something that society wants of you. Find yourself first. Fill that empty shell and be proud of yourself, and live a fulfilling life. Don’t always rely on others for answers because THEY are not YOU. The only person who can answer any type of question about you is yourself. Set yourself free from the chains of the unknown. Isn’t it about time for you to truly and passionately live your life? So get out there and love your life, and live your dream. Although I do not know you personally, I do know that there is something so incredible sleeping inside of you just waiting for you to knock it upside the head with a 2×4. Wake it up, and truly live the life that you were meant to live.

    Andy Cho is a regular person, just like you. Andy has a passion for helping others improve their lives by learning not to make the same mistakes he has made in his own life.

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  • How To Improve Your Memory

    Too often when I ask the question: “Do you have a bad memory? The automatic answer I get is an emphatic Yes!

    My next question to them is what if someone were to borrow from them say a million dollars would they forget the person? And this time they give me a resounding No! Of course not! When I ask them why that is so and they say “well its obvious isn’t it? I mean how can you possibly forget that?

    So back to the original question: “why do you think you’ve got a bad memory?” This time they give me another excuse.

    Unless you’ve been diagnose with some kind of brain debilitating disease there is no such thing as a bad memory. For that matter there is no such thing as a good memory either. What most of us have is an untrained mind that can be nurtured to develop a razor sharp memory. The main reason why some of us feel that we cannot achieve this is that they are expecting it to occur overnight and they hope that there is some kind of pill that they can swallow that will boost their memory power.

    Although some kinds of food can in some ways keep our memory power intact, what it really boils down to is to train our brain to remember what we want and recall them when we want to. In a recent seminar that I conducted, I had an 80 year old gentleman who after having been taught on how to remember was able to recall a long list of words in a short period of time. This is indeed a testament to the fact that old age does not destroy our ability to remember. Consider this metaphor: what happens if you never use a knife for a long period of time? The answer is obvious – it will not be as sharp as it should be. However, once you’ve sharpened it and use it regularly you find that it stays sharp. After some time you find that it gets blunt again and you have to sharpen it once more. This is how your memory works. You have to sharpen your memory from time to time. Just like you keep your physical body healthy by engaging in regular exercise, you can keep your memory razor sharp by doing the following things.

    Improve your power of observation


    One of the key reasons why many of us feel that we’ve got a lousy memory is because we do not boost our power of observation. If you drive, how many times have you parked your car in a multi-story carpark and were unable to find where you’ve parked the car when you return? The reason why you’ve got this problem is because when you parked your car, you failed to connect or link your car to the surrounding environment. You perceive the world that is in front of you and your car. What you need to do is to turn and have a good look at your car and see where you’ve parked it. Link your car to a pillar or remember the lot number where you’ve parked.

    When you are introduced to someone new the first thing that you do is to find out the person’s name. And yet a few seconds later you cannot remember the name. Again this is due to your lack of power of observation. What you can do is to ask the person to repeat their name if you did not get it the first time. If the person gives you a name card, look at the card and make an association of the person with the name and his/her organization.

    Example: Let say you were introduced to Theresa Lim who is a HR manager with Alphabet Pte Ltd. Perhaps you could see a “Tree” with lots of letters from the alphabets hanging from it. Then you know who the person is as ‘tree’ sounds close to Theresa and the letters on the tree may trigger your brain to recall the name of the company she is working.

    However, I need to caution you here to be sensitive to this as it might look impressive on your part if you are able to recall the person you met, but you certainly won’t want to tell the person how you remember her.

    Boost your concentration


    This is important if you really want to develop a razor sharp memory. You don’t have to sweat over it. You could do it slowly and steadily. Boosting your concentration helps your brain to intensify its various activities and thus helps you to recall information with ease. You can boost your concentration by trying to link unrelated list of words by creating a story between them. Try to remember a whole song lyric by hard and sing it. You can also take a paragraph from a book or a list of countries and see whether you could remember them by hard. When you force yourself to remember such list of items there is a tendency for your brain to make many neural connections that allows you to boost your concentration and this in turn helps you increase your ability to recall information with ease.

    Learn a new thing everyday


    This is one of the most effective ways to keep your memory razor sharp. When you learn something new everyday you will find yourself becoming increasingly more alert and focussed on what you are doing. One effective way to do this is to learn a new word from the dictionary everyday and try to use it in your daily conversation or writing. Or you could keep an encyclopedia by your bedside and learn a new bit of information before you sleep. The Internet has many useful search engines that give you an immediate access to almost any information that you want. Try not to search for things that you already have a prior knowledge in. Learn something new as in that way your brain will take notice. When you do this regularly you will find that the new information seems to attract your interest and this will inspire your brain to make effective connections with existing information you have to help you boost your memory and make it razor sharp.

    Dr Daniel Theyagu is a corporate trainer and seminar leader who has designed and conducted competency-based training for more than 150 organizations. He is based in Singapore and can be reached at mailto:dtheyagu@singnet.com.sg dtheyagu@singnet.com.sg

    Website: thinklaterally.com thinklaterally.com


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  • Being assertive is good. It allows you to get your point across in a way that is better remembered by the other party because of the intensity of the emotion that is associated with it. However, assertiveness can also be a pitfall when overdone. While it can seal deals, it also has the power to destroy relationships and potential business opportunities. How, then, can you assert yourself without being too pushy or annoying?

    Here are some tips you might want to keep in mind the next time you try to calmly convince someone to see your side of the story.

    Don’t Bulldoze Your Listener

    What is bulldozing? In sales, it is referred to as the act of drowning the prospective clients in figures and facts in order to confuse them to eventual submission. Keep in mind that the only way the other party will accept your idea is when they have decided that they want it. People who have given in to your bulldozing will do so only at first, but will eventually try to get out of the situation, be it after a few minutes or after a few days. You must be able to know how to read body language in order to decipher if a certain action is appropriate for the situation.

    Nevertheless, if you want to be an effective and truly successful persuader, you want others to willingly agree with you, not because you almost forced them unwillingly to do something or left them with no other choice. If you are at a debate, this is fine. You are trained to tear the other person’s statements apart. However, in a normal conversation, this is a major blunder.

    “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still,” as the saying goes. This means that while you may have succeeded in getting others person to give their agreement forcibly, they will still maintain their original ideas. If you try to make them cooperate with you thereafter, expect that it is going to be difficult.

    What should you do then? Try to make your idea attractive to the other party so that they would be more willing to submit to it. You can do so by first acknowledging the merits of their points and then outlining your merits. Do not make a comparison that is based on just the negative aspects. You will appear to be discrediting the other person; this is not good.

    Be Patient And Try To Avoid Clashes

    The professional persuader is never overeager; he always moves steadily and carefully towards his goal, and avoids getting into situations that would result in idea collisions. He is sensitive enough to watch out for emotional or psychological taboos and avoids them at all costs.

    How can you do this? First, do not take sides. Try to be open to all ideas that are placed on the table and consider each one’s merits meticulously before you move on to pursuing your selection. Actually, you don’t really need to focus on one concept alone. When you study everything that’s suggested, you will find that you can make appropriate changes and combine all their positive aspects to arrive at something that is agreeable to everyone involved.

    The key to being effectively assertive is to keep an open mind. If you simply stick to what is in your head and work endlessly at seeing it through in 100% state to the end, do not expect to enjoy the ride. You will lose friendships, you will lose confidence, and you will lose the drive, eventually. Assertiveness is good when used the right way, which is the professional and balanced way. If you try to use your assertive skills to force people to your side, there is no way you will truly succeed.

    Michael Lee is the author of 20daypersuasion.com How to be a Red Hot Persuasion Wizard… in 20 days or less, an ebook that reveals mind-altering persuasion techniques on how to tremendously enhance your relationships, create unlimited wealth, and get anything you want…just like magic. Get a sample chapter and highly-stimulating “Get What You Want” advice at: 20daypersuasion.com 20daypersuasion.com. He is the Co-Founder of self-improvement-millionaires.com self-improvement-millionaires.com and is licensed as a Certified Public Accountant.


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